What We Want – MidWeek October 7, 2020

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This column is not about the post-COVID-19 dreams; it’s not about politics or red, blue or purple states; it’s not about how naïve or radical “they” are. It’s a simple tale about partnership. A study was conducted a year ago by researcher Andrew Thomas of Swansea University in Wales whereby 2,700 college students from Western nations (Australia, Norway, United Kingdom) and Eastern countries (Singapore, Malaysia) were queried about what, exactly, they were looking for in a mate for life, otherwise known as pair-bonding.

It’s estimated that only 5% of mammals mate for life, as humankind is grouped in a small cluster with beavers, wolves, and even some bats, to name a few of our bonding brethren. You undoubtedly have your own list of life partner priorities, but according to psychology lecturer Thomas, the #1 priority for men and women, East and West, is kindness. 

Seems reasonable… after all, 45+ years to be spent with someone (ideally) requires work, and having a shared appreciation for kindness can work wonders, especially during those tough times. After kindness, men favored physical attractiveness while women chose a man’s propensity to be able to provide financially. But kindness was easily the #1 requisite trait, far more important than other attributes mentioned in the study like creativity, religiosity, chastity, desire for children, and humor. Amazingly, one’s air guitar prowess did not make the “most wanted” list. Huh? While there are surely nuances based on cultural differences, at the end of the day we all want to hang out with someone who’s kind- friendly, generous, warm, decent, understanding, accommodating, compassionate, and present. 

Researcher Thomas commented that “…it’s great that kindness is king and appears to be a human universal”. Ah, if only we saw more of that in the world in general today. The lack of every day kindness around us goes beyond looking for our eternal soulmate. But let’s not venture down that dark, partisan wormhole this week. We’ve all earned a column this week bereft of political partisanship, paranoia, patronizing provocation, and the petty polarization of America. And now, back to kindness…

Kindness assumes a sense of empathy, a trait lacking far too often in opinionated conversation these days. Forget whether or not it’s about mate-seeking, sincere kindness can make even bitter indignation or disappoint a bit easier to tolerate. Kindness- a simple concept with major repercussions. Try it on…

Think about it…

The New Reality – MidWeek September 30, 2020

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Slowly peeling back necessary restrictions is not going to save many local businesses hammered by the reality of seven months (so far) of COVID-19, plus quarantine, consumer wariness and weariness, costly safety measures, restrictive seating measures, minimal desire soon for large crowds at events, and sensible store traffic limitations.

We will not see local consumers rushing back to stores, malls, or restaurants soon. We will not see 10.4 million tourists visiting in 2021 or 2022. Estimates suggest that it could take five years, if we really want and get to that 2019 visitor count number again. What we need is creative collaboration, perhaps even unimaginable tax incentives and other lures to bring new business to Hawai`i. Hotels and tourist destinations will surely offer incentives soon. But how about local government working with the private sector to hopefully entice new business in the foreseeable future? Venture capital money is looking for opportunities, interest rates are low; now is the time to be entrepreneurial.

Some questioned metropolitan areas as they did backflips to convince Amazon to build its new headquarters (HQ2) in their towns. 238 cities bid, offering free land, community control, and property tax deferrals. One site purportedly offered to give Amazon employee’s state income taxes right back to Amazon! Crazy? Perhaps, but we are moving beyond “rainy day” options here as we look ahead six or 12 months. Rainy days? Prognostications indicate ground saturation and flooding. 

We need more higher-paying jobs and truly affordable housing for residents than we’ve seen over the past decade. Lots of talk for years, but little action. Tourism has been our gravy train; it’s now off the tracks. Unlike New Jersey, which offered Amazon about $7 billion to bring HQ2 there, we’re not looking to add residents, we’re just trying to keep residents from leaving in the coming years. 

Our exceedingly high cost of living and lack of quality jobs won’t permit a future of business as usual, and a vaccine won’t resolve our ongoing problems. In January, 2020, Aloha United Way (my employer) revealed that we had almost 200,000 Asset Limited, Income Constrained, Employed (ALICE) families in Hawai`i, a number also identified in AUW’s 2018 data. That was local reality pre-COVID-19. So let’s procure an East/West medical partnership, international space exploration facility, military adjunct, cybersecurity hub, science/technology expansion, ecotourism, media production facility, and/or alternate energy facilities? Or should we just wait?

Think about it… 

If Only It Was A Dream – MidWeek September 23, 2020

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You wake up and hope that maybe it’s all been just a bad dream, that this COVID-19 thing is really just “Groundhog Day 2”. But then reality seeps in; you start your daily routine, whatever day or month it is. Perhaps some forces working against each other here might actually help some people with a little balance in the long run- anxiety vs. sleep. 

Hawai’i adults have the 3rd lowest percentage of frequent mental distress of any state, yet we get the least amount of sleep of any state in the country; and that was pre-coronavirus. Hawai’i ranked 50th out of 50 states in adults getting sufficient sleep (defined as at least seven hours nightly) in studies from 2016 and last year. 

One rationalization for Hawai`i’s lack of sleep is the large number of people working multiple jobs and/or longer hours to make ends meet, which decreases the probability of getting those requisite seven hours of sleep daily. Poverty also plays a role, but our state’s poverty rate (11%) actually ranks us as the 7th lowest state in terms of poverty.

But what happens now when people spend months at home; when daily routines completely change; when four people in a household Zoom all day; when jobs are interrupted or lost amid a weak economy? Are people nowadays sleeping better because they’re home more, or are unplanned stresses causing mental distress locally to creep above the 14.7% adult national average? More people with more time to ponder what’s next or what’s to be when this virus thing finally tapers off.

Sleeplessness, restless sleep, and lack of sleep affect attentiveness (driving, general cognition, etc.) and increase one’s chances for obesity, diabetes, high blood pressure, strokes, and heart disease. Quality sleep is a necessity, not a luxury, but many here find sleep to be just one more chore crammed into an already busy day.

Perhaps local medical leaders are analyzing 2020 statistics related to stress, despair, anxiety, sleeplessness, suicide ideation, and other coronavirus-related developments. More action to educate and suggest preventive treatments must take place in the trying months ahead. Losing sleep debilitates and affects work output, emotional resilience, and general attitude. Sleep, and lack thereof, must be an integral part of our larger discussion today about COVID-19 and Hawai`i’s collective mental health. Everyone’s tired of the novel coronavirus; but it’s even worse when everyone’s simply tired.

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True Facts, Maybe – MidWeek September 16, 2020

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Those daily updates on the number of local COVID-19 cases are inaccurate. They represent official numbers- confirmed coronavirus cases. The Center of Disease Control (CDC), local medical prognosticators, and foreign studies indicate that the actual number of daily cases might be five to ten times greater than the daily confirmed and reported caseload. So if 220 cases here daily doesn’t cause you any concern, would you pay attention with 1,000 or 2,000 daily cases? Asymptomatic people (perhaps 80% of the cases) are less likely to get tested (since they feel OK) but can be so-called “super-spreaders”, so this invisible game of tag goes on. Estimates suggest that 20% of COVID-19 carriers are responsible for 80% of local virus transmissions. 

We will probably have the vaccines available by year end, but they might be just 50% effective. Flu vaccines annually are only about 50-60% effective. Yet even partially effective vaccines can mitigate virus impacts. Many people simply won’t get a vaccine… ever. Only 45% of Americans get the annual flu vaccine. And the people who do get a COVID-19 vaccine, do you think they’ll then assume they’ve acquired super-immunity status, and thus no longer adhere to rules about mask-wearing and social distancing? Not a smart idea. Plus, who knows how long any new vaccine’s effectiveness will last? Smallpox, polio, and measles vaccines provide long-lasting staying power. But only time will tell the efficacy of a single COVID-19 vaccination and if possible virus mutations down the road might necessitate annual vaccines.

We obviously need to do a better job here quarantining confirmed patients. Sending a pre-symptomatic or asymptomatic coronavirus patient home where others live is a possible ticking time bomb. Good luck segregating completely in Hawai`i with so many postage stamp-sized units, multiple generations in single houses, and neighbors living so close by that you not only hear them, but you can identify the song they’re singing in the shower.

The reality is- we’re tired. Many locally have done their best to isolate and do it all- working, parenting, providing, Zooming, creating- and they’re ready to come out and play. But don’t. COVID-19 is an insidious insider, takes no vacations, mandates no time off, and doesn’t sleep at night. Stay connected digitally, but don’t let your guard down. The “he’s a good guy”/“she’s probably safe” logic is problematic and underestimates how surreptitious this invisible droplet villain really is.

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Can Do – MidWeek September 9, 2020

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You might be running out of creative things to do while quarantining for the better part of six months, but there are things you can do that will actually make a difference during this whole nightmare. Two years from now, looking back at this “lost year” of 2020, will you say that you simply made it through, or will you say that you made a difference?

Plenty of non-profit agencies could use your help beyond a cash donation. And there are things you can safely from your own home. For example, the Waikiki Community Center normally has all kinds of wonderful activity for kūpuna in Waikiki. Waikiki has more kūpuna, per capita than anywhere else in the state. Over 18% of our state population is over 65 and more seniors live beyond the age of 65 in Hawai`i than anywhere else in the country. Lucky you live Hawai`i, again… But elderly stuck in isolation can cause physical changes that increase chronic disease risk and premature death.

So back to the Waikiki Community Center. Hula, food preparation, chess, bingo, and dancing at the facility have been out of the question for five months now, and many of the Center’s regular patrons live alone, without nearby family to check on them or even call them regularly. Here’s where you come in. You (and/or the kids) can make encouraging cards for nā kūpuna, send them word games or crossword puzzles; you can even send gift cards so that an elderly reader can then buy a book online.

Simply click on www.waikikicommunitycenter.org, or mail your goodies to the Waikiki Community Center at 310 Paoakalani Ave, Honolulu, HI., 96815. The Center has created a Virtual Community Center to provide informative, educational, fun at-home activities, and virtual exercise sessions focused on cognitive and physical learning, but some kūpuna simply aren’t adept with digital tools, or don’t have them readily available. 

Some of the faithful at the Waikiki Community Center can’t get out to buy food or necessary medical supplies; a few have even lost their life savings due to scams. Loneliness can lead to uncertainty, vulnerability, and false trust. And that was a reality before sleaze balls oozed out of the slime as COVID-19 took hold, causing even more consternation amid isolation, separation, and loneliness. It’s all about making a difference- even if done remotely and for someone you don’t know.

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Get Going – MidWeek September 2, 2020

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The old proverb, “When the going gets tough, the tough get going” played out in true form last month in Washington, D.C. Faced with yet another decision on how best to aid Americans suffering mightily from COVID-19 and its myriad ripple effects, our elected officials “got going”… as in going home. Faced with working out a rescue plan for its constituent base- you know, the ones that elected them- Congress punted. 

Actually, it took its ball and went home. One group wanted to give out $1.2-trillion, the other group $3-trillion, and yes, there were agitated negotiations, but inevitably, the compromise was an agreement to abandon ship and go home for a month. The President, naturally, filled this legislative leadership void by making his own decision about what should be gifted to Americans and businesses in the stunning chasm left by Congress. We’re still waiting to see how that effort plays out. Congress? Compost.

If you or I leave work without getting our jobs done, we’re fired, or at least warned. How far removed from reality must these supposed people of the people be to let wary families, the elderly, and single people suffer with food, rent, medical, and mental issues?!  Representatives? How about reprehensible?! They should stay in meetings until finalizing a decision; raise the room temperature one degree every few hours to make things uncomfortable… just like things are for too many Americans. Bet they’d come up with a compromise plan in a day or so… or risk fainting.

The late-August local response to our latest COVID-19 outburst took 25 pages to explain. Hope you read it. If you go out, no more than five people can gather together. But if you go out forever (i.e. pass away), well, then 10 people can show up for your funeral. Who’s idea was that- Moe, Larry, or Curly?

And please explain the nuances of the “no wind instruments” phenomena. Yelling isn’t banned, but singing or blowing an oboe too close to people is. Thank goodness the woodwind-ists of Hawai`i are a mellow lot, or we’d be experiencing a rare reed rebellion, a raucous round-up of obtuse oboists, furious flutists, clamorous clarinetists, belligerent bassoonists, and piqued piccolo players! Hey, ban leaf blowers- we can cut back on yelling, which cuts back airborne particles. We’re beyond improvisation at this point. We’re living in a recurrent “Saturday Night Live” skit. More cowbell!

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Of Primary Concern – MidWeek August 26, 2020

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Here’s a thought for the new school year, if kids actually do go back to classrooms in force- put up large tents on campuses. They’re not being used for weddings or parties, so grab a few hundred military-grade tents and put them onto empty school playgrounds and fields, and hold classes outdoors, with greater safety. Minimize in-school traffic, separate the kids under tents, figure out how to use needed visual teaching aids outside, and you might have an answer for how to better space out and invigorate eight-year olds while keeping teachers safe(r)…

99% of the votes in our August 8 primary election came via mail- that’s amazing. And yet 49% of registered voters still didn’t bother to vote. Why you would register and then choose to ignore your civic duty is hard to comprehend. Even if you didn’t know all of the candidates, you can simply vote just in those races where you want to voice your opinion. 54,000 more people registered to vote in this primary than registered in 2018, and 120,000 more people actually voted- all good, but why pro-actively sign up, and then pro-actively not mail in a ballot? Busy binge-watching “Ozark”? Setting a personal best for Zoom calls? Watching yet one more mediocre iPhone, solo artist, music video? Ok, but that ballot was probably sitting in your house for quite some time, unless you tossed it early. Maybe November, yeh?

In the classic progressive rocker, “Us And Them”, Pink Floyd reminds us that “…after all, we’re only ordinary men”. Well, when it comes to vandalism, theft, and graffiti, we have met the enemy and he is us, not them (apologies to Walt Kelly and Pogo). Locals are trashing our parks, illegally accessing and camping, smashing urinals (what a fine, sporting achievement!), defecating in the bushes, and doing wheelies on the sand dunes. 

At Polihale State Park on Kaua`i; Ka`ena Point State Park and Aiea Bay State Park on O`ahu; at Kekaha Kai State Park and Kīholo State Park Reserve on Hawai`i Island. Even the visitors that some don’t want to see return never did this kind of damage. 1,000 people camped at Polihale one weekend in July, yet only 80 had legal permits. Aloha spirit? More like aloha spit! Grow up folks. Don’t show up. Stay home; stay safe for everyone’s sake. Local pride? Show some simple respect for the `aina.

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Here We Go Again – MidWeek August 19, 2020

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The numbers are numbing. Daily counts of “confirmed” coronavirus cases. Estimates indicate that reported numbers might actually represent just 10% of the new cases. The COVID-19 scourge treats each host individually, sparing some from major health problems while greatly impacting others. Long-term impacts? We now know that even healthy, younger people can suffer greatly. Yeh, you may live, but how do heart damage, blood clots, memory loss, hallucinations, and/or kidney failure fit in with your party plans?

“143 new cases today on Oahu” is a lead story that seemingly affects just one-tenth of one percent of our state’s population (1.4-million). But what if that reported number represents just one-tenth of the actual new cases which surfaced that day? Mask-less, asymptomatic or pre-symptomatic, non-socially distancing mavericks are out there, so maybe our coronavirus numbers are much larger, as most experts suggest. Or is that fear-mongering? Would 1,430 cases a day cause mask-less rebels to think twice?

Ah, but in these post-truth days where facts are often treated as opinions, what do the experts know, right? Well, here’s what we do know. People without masks or sans distancing concerns might think that their risk is manini or that they’re impervious to this ailment, but they’re not. 

Yes, you’ve suffered the indignity of being somewhat quarantined by “the man” for the better part of four months, but darn it, you deserve to roam freely because you said so, and you deserve your beach beer bong! Well, freedom has a price. And if we’re to win this “war on coronavirus” before better treatments come to fruition, than mask up, be a patriot and support the cause. Asymptomatic patients can carry high virus loads, thus spreading the virus to others unknowingly (or uncaringly?).

We want our economy back; we’ll have to earn it. Really sick people don’t spend money, they cost money. COVID-19 takes no holidays, cares not about social status, earnings, ethnicity, or SAT scores. It simply hops from host to host via a free ride. Wash up, physically distance, AND wear masks (not an either/or choice), and we might cause this invisible force to wither away within six weeks. Or continue to play Russian roulette with a ruthless enemy. PTSD and mental anguish with an on-again, off-again economy ensure longer-term impacts beyond the virus’ obvious effects. Being vigilant and responsible is really not a choice. It’s a necessity.

Think about it… 

The Absence of Presence – MidWeek August 12, 2020

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The rock band, Kansas, hit the nail on the head with 1977’s “Dust in the Wind” when it pointed out that, in the end, “…all we are is dust in the wind”. So, enjoy it while you can. With a revamped group lineup in 2020, Kansas strikes a nerve anew with its latest progressive rock anthem, “The Absence of Presence”. 

You’re here, but you’re not really here. You hear, but you really don’t listen; you see, but you’re inattentive. Our digital addictions have rendered us far too remote far too often. And while COVID-19 has really tested us our patience, we can choose and rejoice in phone-free meals, quiet reading moments, and family game-playing, as we embrace real connectivity.

Brain neurochemicals release when we are in the moment. We’re not multi-taskers, a myth proven false in numerous studies- your brain focuses on one thing at a time; period. Kansas sings, “The absence of presence fills the air / I know you’re here but you’re really not there”. Is that how it feels to interact when a friend or loved one is physically present, but not really there?

Minds wonder and wander; thus being truly present is a trait sometimes lacking in our frenetic worlds as we cram too much into too little time. “I don’t have time” is an overused lament; the only thing you really do have control over is your own time. Use it wisely. Phone on vibrate- that’s not the answer. Phone off- now you’re in play. This “Groundhog Day” coronavirus existence has reminded us that we really do crave some physical connection with one another, at some level. Sharing experiences is usually more fun (and memorable) than going it alone, day after day.

If you’re often wrapped up in videogames, emails, chat rooms, venomous web troll parades, prurient rumors-du-jour websites, or just checking what you missed in the last five minutes on Facebook (clue: nothing!), then you might be here… but, not really.

It’s beautiful outside (even if it’s raining); do you even notice? Do you discern the diverse calls of local birds? Do you laugh with a loved one and completely abandon outside thoughts. Absence of being with family and time not spent in friendship moments is surely sad. We’ll get through it. Absence of yourself is sad, but controllable. Come on back; bring all of you. Get presents as you give presence.

Think about it…

Missed – MidWeek August 5, 2020

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Well, that was close! Hurricane Douglas took a northwesterly tour above the island chain on July 26th, and we lucked out… again. Storms/hurricanes Kenneth (2005), Flossie (2007), Felicia (2009), Iselle (2014), Darby (2016), Madeline (2016), Lane (2018) all showed “big body” but then huffed and puffed their ways pretty much around us. Stiff wind shears and cooler waters in our midst are two factors that historically mitigate westward-heading storms that we normally see. But beware the next one, or the tempest that approaches from the south. Ignorance is not bliss.

While we all lament the high pressure this unforgiving coronavirus is causing, thank goodness for the high pressure system that encircles our islands and usually deflects or denigrates approaching hurricanes that emanate in the eastern Pacific Ocean.

Yet our ocean waters appear warmer than in recent years, and our high-pressure winds have shifted a bit; thus we appear more vulnerable to a direct strike this year, or next year, or… well, you get the picture. Dot (August, 1959), Iwa (November, 1982), and Iniki (September, 1992) proved that while we’re truly a tiny speck in a vast ocean, shift happens. It would be foolish to let our guard down and not prepare well as these summer/autumn natural events take shape. Because rest unassured, we will be hit again, at some level, some day.

Iwilei Costco was not a madhouse right before Douglas’ flight arrived (everyone already has toilet paper and water supplies from COVID-19 hoarding). Shelters had some issues- there are too few in number, and volunteers were possibly scared away amid social distancing concerns). Perhaps the overall lack of Douglas panic can be explained by the state we’re all in right now- fragile, fatigued, world weary, and by the sense that “really… with COVID- 19 cases on the rise and so many concerns about health, school, the economy, and our futures, we really have to deal with nature’s nautical tease!?” Shelter in place at home? That request was easy- we’ve been doing it for the last four months.

So yes, keep your guard (and your facemasks) up. As the old adage says: Man plans and God laughs. But plan we must. We have no direct control over nature, but we can maintain absolute control over ourselves and how we (re)act. We must exude hope and keep positive vibes coming, in general, because the sun always does rise tomorrow.

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