Thank-Full – MidWeek December 2, 2020

I heard a cool song that I’d never heard the other day during a TV commercial. So, I got up, rewound the DVR to replay the ad, then used my Shazam cell phone app to identify the name of the song, went to Spotify, copied the URL of the song and sent it to my email for later listening and consideration on my annual “top songs of the year” list. Gratifying…

So many things going on there that even a semi-Luddite could I appreciate- rewind capability, mobile apps, easy access, email, etc. Years ago, I would have had to remember that tune and hopefully figure it’s title later. The point here is that in this nightmarish year, now’s a great time to reflect on things you’re thankful for beyond the sometimes-taken-for-granted-but-shouldn’t-be joys of life (family, health, friends, a job). Imagine what school would be like in a pandemic world without distance learning. Yeh, it’s flawed, but it’s manageable. Imagine how office work would have been handled in 2020 without those now-overdone Zoom calls.

How would we have connected with loved ones without wireless devices and virtual, visual get-togethers? Of course it’s not as good as actually being there, but it sure beats total absence. So here’s to digitalia allowing us to stay in touch and be touched when we can’t touch. No one covets COVID, but we’ve survived with the aid of tech tools as we bemoan our relative isolation, week after week.

Let’s be thankful in a viral year to live where we can comfortably spend time outdoors from November to March, while much of the nation shivers- forced to be inside… a lot. Here’s to local food merchants making the best of this pandemic with delivery, curbside service, pop-up locations, and can-do attitudes. And first responders- you rule.

Thanks for monetary help provided to people in need from family, friends, neighbors, programs, and forgiving lenders. Thanks for the creative spirit to help the downtrodden see a distant light at the end of this viral tunnel, when things will return to a new sense of normal, when the term “going viral” won’t trigger thoughts of catastrophe.

Yes, this season of giving thanks provides us with time to reflect, remember, and realize that while 2020 has been ugly in oh so many ways, if we search, there are always things we can smile about and be appreciative of.

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Neoteny – MidWeek November 25, 2020

Neoteny is Latin for “holding childhood”. It speaks to the innate capacity we all have as adults to retain childlike characteristics as we age. In this season of giving thanks, our innate neoteny is something that we should pay attention to and appreciate as we enter month #10 of  distancing, masks, and hand sanitizing. Ashley Montagu identified neotenous attributes in her book, “Growing Young”, mentioning playfulness, curiosity, humor, creativity, sensitivity, and wonder- all traits that might can refresh us, especially during these tough times. 

I learned of neoteny locally at Glenn Furuya’s phenomenal Leadership Works seminar on “Leadership Island Style”. Glenn teaches transformational development incorporating our unique, tri-cultural phenomenon here where East meets West meets Polynesia- a fabulous mix when featuring the best of each culture for business. Glenn reminds us that we can be adults without having to be aDULLts. He stresses never losing that child-like playfulness, that zest to learn more, have fun, view things without prejudice, see beauty, stare wide-eyed and gaze at the mundane anew. It’s a tool we all possess.

When we lose our flexibility as life and circumstances get too heavy, or when we bury it deep in the vast recesses of our minds, we ignore an integral part of our very being. When you’re young, you’re flexible. You don’t yet know what you don’t know- but you’re often willing to learn. Adults rightfully tiptoe through 2020 with COVID-19 as an invisible, insidious invader, so we need to dance, sing, paint, laugh, and reflect more often for counterbalance. We need to open up our minds to help solve issues that appear unrelenting, oppressive and even overwhelming. Neoteny can help to mitigate pain, no matter how much longer this stupefying pandemic lasts.

And what better place for neoteny to manifest itself than right here in Hawai`i nei?! Birds chirping, waves lapping, friendly people, majestic views we’ve ignored for far too long, unique and delectable food treats that remind us of younger days, laughing with a long-time friend, being consciously curious, creative, and carefree, even if for no reason at all. We once watched little Mikey instructed in the Life Cereal TV commercial- “try it, you’ll like it!”; neoteny is absolutely worth trying. It’s even been attributed as having impacted geniuses like Ludwig von Beethoven, Bill Gates, Isaac Newton, Albert Einstein and Pablo Picasso. Best of all, it’s available right now for free. Happy Thanksgiving!

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Stats-uesque – MidWeek November 18, 2020

While the numbers are still being sorted out, one thing about the 2020 election is for certain. Hawai`i voters came out (or mailed in) in huge numbers. We relinquished our position of being the most apathetic state in the country (when it comes to voting). “Ainokea” was replaced by “AiDOkea” as our voting ranks swelled to about 70% of all registered voters, a huge jump from the decades of weaker local election turnout. Our total vote count of about 580,000 was 27% higher than when Hawaii’s own Barack Obama first ran for the country’s top office back in 2008.

A full two-thirds of all local ballots were handled through the mail- simple, easy, convenient, and precedent-setting. Well, precedent-setting locally, but Union soldiers ramped up our country’s mail-in voting process way back in 1864 (they were a bit busy in the field, as you might imagine). Most states allowed soldiers to vote from afar during World War I, when the practice really took hold nationally. Bottom line- absentee voting is a centuries-old tradition in America. Oregon has been exclusively a vote-by-mail state since 2000, and Hawai`i now also joins Colorado, Washington, and Utah as vote-by-mail states. Yes, both red and blue areas do it without rancor in a purple world…

Some persist that there must be some gamesmanship (or worse) going on. According to TIME magazine, in the election year of 2016, “Despite claims of vote fraud when voting is conducted outside of polling places, only 0.00006% of the 250 million votes by mailed ballots nationwide were fraudulent, according to MIT political scientists who analyzed numbers from the Heritage Foundation’s Election Fraud Database.”  Thus, there were about 150 dubious votes cast out of 250,000,000 in 2016. Even in a skewed, jaded, divided, sometimes post-truth world, statistics can be revealing.

Emotions and stakes seemed higher this year, helping to drive up voting numbers, but the good news is that more people in 2020 participated in our hallowed hallmark of democracy rather than choosing to abstain and then whine. Numerous closely contested races suggest that every vote does matter- a truism in every election. 

COVID-19 concerns made absentee voting easier to rationalize and a safer option for many, and the bottom line is that Hawai`i overcame its historically apathetic approach in experiencing the biggest percentage growth of voters of any state. Here’s hoping that spirit becomes a long-term habit.

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(Four) Season’s Greetings! – MidWeek November 11, 2020

It might be a little bit tougher for some this year for oodles of really good reasons, but the season to give thanks is nigh upon us as we hit mid-November. And while this may be a holiday season unlike any other in memory, our calendars dictate that special times are right around the corner. I’ve often pondered why we can’t just be nicer 12-months a year, instead of at Thanksgiving and Christmas time. Do we really need a calendar to tell us to treat people more kindly, or be more cheerful and thankful? After all, if we do it now, can’t we do it later, too?

Are those human traits such a stretch that we can’t take the wonderfulness of this season and stretch it out? Stores hold “Christmas in June” sales, so why can’t more people celebrate with Christmas attitudes that last beyond this 45-day window through News Year’s Day? Of course we can. We can ratchet our empathy levels up a notch regularly. We can sincerely thank people for the things they do and the things they mean to us more regularly.

Praising people you work with, jog with, or live with need not be exclusive November and December events. April’s a great month to be more consciously competent. July’s a hot time to give someone a gift card. October’s a cool month to be more aware of friends, family, co-workers, and neighbors. With some people, it almost feels forced when they turn on the charm for just a month or so around winter holidays. But, at least we know they’ve got it in ‘em!

And by the way, if eggnog is so good (which it is) why don’t we drink it year round? It’s kinda like the occasional McRib tease- only showing up on rare occasions. Why? And can’t we stuff turkeys and slather on the cranberry sauce in February? I’m pretty sure there’s no local ordinance against that endeavor. Let’s become creatures of helping, and not so much creatures of habit. Eat, drink, and be merry whenever. And let’s also pile on the sincere caring, volunteering, donating, giving, and listening so badly needed 12-months a year.  Yeh, it’s been a tough 2020. But let’s not Scrooge it up by losing sight of our faith in humanity, ourselves, and the reality that we will get to the other side of this debacle.

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Shifting Gears – MidWeek November 4, 2020

A cohort of mine once philosophized: “don’t worry about things over which you have no control”. A simple adage perhaps, but also quite profound. For how many nights of sleep have we all lost pondering COVID-19-related situations that might adversely affect us, but over which we felt we had little, direct control?

It’s easy to say these words but oh, so hard to live up to them. There is empirical truth in the concept, especially as we all deal with our own versions of the pandemic blues in month #9. Rather than dwell on worst-case scenarios, find a plausible reality you can influence and deal with. Rather than contemplate the “what ifs”, start problem-solving (if you haven’t already). Yeh, the coronavirus conundrum involves uncertainties, unpleasantries, and possibly some major (or minor) life changes. But better to be the planner than merely the recipient of what fate throws at you, isn’t it?

Find healthy alternatives to binge-watching, web-wasting, and texting; swerve away from over-eating or drinking. Obviously, these would’ve been healthy month #3 plans, but it’s never too late. Take a drive somewhere you wouldn’t normally go- change the scenery. Go for a walk- in a different direction. Eat kale! Explore new music, or seek out old music you never dove into. Go wild- combine walking or driving with good music. How bold! Set you mind free, even occasionally. Escape the humdrum and numbness. 

Break your routines down. Brush your teeth right after dinner, a subtle signal to your brain that you’re pau for the night (which might reduce snacking and/or cravings). Contact someone you haven’t seen in years- but don’t play 2020’s “misery loves company” game; instead, find common bonds that made this lapsed contact a one-time ally; laugh about good days as you reminisce. Re-train your brain.

We all have interwoven connections from many facets of our lives here locally. Change your outlook via a little change in your direction and attitude. While nothing will currently prevent this oppressive, viral moment from being a monotonous drag and drain, you DO control your outlook, demeanor, and valuation of all people and all things. Give yourself a break, for you surely deserve it. I wrote this a week before the long-awaited election results started to funnel in, but guess what- at the end of each and every day, you still control you. You may take charge.

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Grounded – MidWeek October 28, 2020

Being officially quarantined for two weeks is no picnic, but often it’s the little things in life that help you get by. As we sat numb through day three, four, and then five, my akamai nephew and his equally wonderful wife dropped off small gifts with big implications. Sometimes, the seemingly insignificant can keep us grounded, hopeful, and present. Sometimes, that which seems trivial can be a perfect solution.

And so it was when they dropped off Ding Dongs and Ho Hos. Defined as “small, cylindrical, frosted, cream-filled chocolate snack cakes with a pinwheel design”, Ho Hos are so much more. A timeline that reverberates deep within my very being. After scarfing down a Mom-crafted, lunchtime sandwich in junior high school, Ho Hos were an indulgent, dessert treat. And unlike those other delightful offerings (Twinkies, Sno balls, Ding Dongs) Ho Hos came three to a pack!

Yeh, perhaps the questionable Vaseline-like texture of Ho Hos preclude their stature atop the food pyramid… but come on. There’s soul food, and then there’s food for the soul. And we can all use some nostalgic padding nowadays to help us through the hellish harshness of 2020, right!

As I ate the savory, chocolate offering, I also reflected on my 15-years of AYSO coaching, when the big deal on Saturdays was not reflecting on a win or a loss, but rather- what’s for snack?! I often opted for Ho Hos or Ding Dongs. The simple onomatopoeia when I said “Ho Hos” or “Ding Dongs” was usually enough to get my minions laughing out loud. And then I would add, “Ding Dongs… because you guys (girls) are a bunch of ding dongs!”- a sure crowd pleaser.

Whether it’s shave ice, ahi poke, gazing out at your favorite beach while reminiscing about body surfing ‘til sunset, it’s OK to immerse yourself in nostalgia and trivia; exercise the vast recesses of your now-adult mind. When I hear The Beatles’ “Yesterday” (the most covered pop song of all-time), I’m back in 4th grade, wishing Liz Nathan would pay more attention to me and less to my pals- Joey and Larry. Alas, it wasn’t to be.

We need more safe escapes today, perhaps more than ever, and you house some of them within your mind. Ho Hos take me back to gentler times- 25  or even 55 years ago- and when I return, I’m convinced that it’s really gonna be OK.

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Riding A Hilo High – MidWeek October 21, 2020

So how cool is that? 1981 Hilo High graduate, Jennifer Doudna, recently won a coveted Nobel Prize in chemistry for her work (along with Frenchwoman Emmanuelle Charpentier) in creating what are known as “molecular scissors”, processes that allow for gene-editing which, one day, could lead to helping cure diseases and fix genetic disorders.

Far too often we overlook great achievements of local public schools and their noted graduates. Jason Scott Lee, Daniel Inouye, David Ige, Bruno Mars, Mark Takai, Daniel Inouye, George Ariyoshi, Hiram Fong, Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson, Tammy Duckworth, Ellison Onizuka, Willie K., Bette Midler, Patsy Mink, Sid Fernandez, Keali`i Reichel, Ben Cayetano, Russ Francis, Andy Bumatai, Bryan Clay, Kalani Pea… the local public school “well-known” list of achievers is seemingly endless. High school is not always a place that provides a catalyst or acts as a driver to a fulfilling and noted career, but it can help pave the way with the right teacher(s), internal drive, hard-work, and some loving encouragement at home.

Doudna went on to Pomona College and then Harvard after leaving Hilo High. In the science “small world” department this month, her Nobel win on October 7 came one day after UCLA astronomer, Andrea Ghez, was a co-winner of the Nobel Prize in physics for her work studying Milky Way black holes (no, not the chocolate bars). Much of that work over the past 25-years has been done looking through telescopes at Mauna Kea’s Keck Observatory. Imagine that- Hawai`i and two accomplished women are arguably at the center of the science universe this month! 

Adding to Doudna’s outstanding Nobel accomplishment is the fact that only five women previously had won or shared the Chemistry prize out of 184 nominees. Perhaps this year’s award given to a local, public school grad will provide a spark or some impetus to other inquisitive local minds (female or male) at an impressionable age. All it takes sometimes is a nudge, a gentle push in the right direction. The right teacher, the right mentor, the right moment. In high school, the right teacher promoted Doudna’s scientific curiosity and said she should do it, she could do it. And Doudna did it- and then some! Now, her Nobel Prize work could be the catalyst to great medical breakthroughs in the years ahead. One breakthrough (at Hilo High) leading to perhaps many more- a prize-winning story.

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Shark Tales – MidWeek October 14, 2020

There have been a number of shark sightings recently off of Waikiki’s Kaimana Beach. Reports indicated that sharks seen on October 3 were “not aggressive”.  Same thing on October 6. Huh? Was that meant to be reassuring, like go ahead… go tubing and thrashing because it’s OK, you won’t be perceived as chum.

The draw? There have been bait balls in the area, a term used to describe when small fish swim closely together to try and protect themselves from larger predators- like sharks. The low key reference to these beautiful, but often fearsome and fearless, creatures as “non-aggressive” relates to one’s individual perspective. To halalu baitfish (scad), this non-aggressive shark portrayal would be simply fake news. 

Humans often make their own choices in life. The mere concept of the word “shark” might give some pause before placing their torsos into the tranquil surf, adjacent to a visiting shark. Something about that dorsal fin in such close proximity could take the fun out of that planned, pleasure swim. When is a door not a door? When it’s ajar (get it- “a jar”). When is a shark not a shark? When it’s melancholy, I guess.  But if these cruising sharks became aggressive, descriptive adjectives would change to: unfriendly, hungry, lunch-seeking- or some other term of non-endearment.

And what clinically trained sharkologist rendered the definitive word for the media to anoint these reef sharks as non-aggressive? Perhaps these sharks were merely passive aggressive. Luckily, we haven’t found out over the past month of sightings, with warning signs properly posted and no unfortunate (human) incidents; no reef sharks have become “eek” sharks.

Multiple sharks feeding 25 yards offshore multiple times at the placid Sans Souci. Sans Souci is a name for the beach that goes back to 1884; it’s French for “without a care”. Well if these non-aggressive visitors keep returning, mellow as they seem, I’m just not sure that bathers will be swimming or frolicking without a care during “shark week(s)”.  

Nurse, leopard, angel, whale, thresher- there are numerous, non-aggressive shark types. In reality, fewer than 8% of the 300 shark species are a real danger to humans. Sharks worldwide kill an average of just four people (unprovoked) annually. And sharks locally can be considered an ancestor, or `aumakua. But I still think it’s best to observe these wily wonders of the water from a safe- and dry- distance.

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What We Want – MidWeek October 7, 2020

This column is not about the post-COVID-19 dreams; it’s not about politics or red, blue or purple states; it’s not about how naïve or radical “they” are. It’s a simple tale about partnership. A study was conducted a year ago by researcher Andrew Thomas of Swansea University in Wales whereby 2,700 college students from Western nations (Australia, Norway, United Kingdom) and Eastern countries (Singapore, Malaysia) were queried about what, exactly, they were looking for in a mate for life, otherwise known as pair-bonding.

It’s estimated that only 5% of mammals mate for life, as humankind is grouped in a small cluster with beavers, wolves, and even some bats, to name a few of our bonding brethren. You undoubtedly have your own list of life partner priorities, but according to psychology lecturer Thomas, the #1 priority for men and women, East and West, is kindness. 

Seems reasonable… after all, 45+ years to be spent with someone (ideally) requires work, and having a shared appreciation for kindness can work wonders, especially during those tough times. After kindness, men favored physical attractiveness while women chose a man’s propensity to be able to provide financially. But kindness was easily the #1 requisite trait, far more important than other attributes mentioned in the study like creativity, religiosity, chastity, desire for children, and humor. Amazingly, one’s air guitar prowess did not make the “most wanted” list. Huh? While there are surely nuances based on cultural differences, at the end of the day we all want to hang out with someone who’s kind- friendly, generous, warm, decent, understanding, accommodating, compassionate, and present. 

Researcher Thomas commented that “…it’s great that kindness is king and appears to be a human universal”. Ah, if only we saw more of that in the world in general today. The lack of every day kindness around us goes beyond looking for our eternal soulmate. But let’s not venture down that dark, partisan wormhole this week. We’ve all earned a column this week bereft of political partisanship, paranoia, patronizing provocation, and the petty polarization of America. And now, back to kindness…

Kindness assumes a sense of empathy, a trait lacking far too often in opinionated conversation these days. Forget whether or not it’s about mate-seeking, sincere kindness can make even bitter indignation or disappoint a bit easier to tolerate. Kindness- a simple concept with major repercussions. Try it on…

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The New Reality – MidWeek September 30, 2020

Slowly peeling back necessary restrictions is not going to save many local businesses hammered by the reality of seven months (so far) of COVID-19, plus quarantine, consumer wariness and weariness, costly safety measures, restrictive seating measures, minimal desire soon for large crowds at events, and sensible store traffic limitations.

We will not see local consumers rushing back to stores, malls, or restaurants soon. We will not see 10.4 million tourists visiting in 2021 or 2022. Estimates suggest that it could take five years, if we really want and get to that 2019 visitor count number again. What we need is creative collaboration, perhaps even unimaginable tax incentives and other lures to bring new business to Hawai`i. Hotels and tourist destinations will surely offer incentives soon. But how about local government working with the private sector to hopefully entice new business in the foreseeable future? Venture capital money is looking for opportunities, interest rates are low; now is the time to be entrepreneurial.

Some questioned metropolitan areas as they did backflips to convince Amazon to build its new headquarters (HQ2) in their towns. 238 cities bid, offering free land, community control, and property tax deferrals. One site purportedly offered to give Amazon employee’s state income taxes right back to Amazon! Crazy? Perhaps, but we are moving beyond “rainy day” options here as we look ahead six or 12 months. Rainy days? Prognostications indicate ground saturation and flooding. 

We need more higher-paying jobs and truly affordable housing for residents than we’ve seen over the past decade. Lots of talk for years, but little action. Tourism has been our gravy train; it’s now off the tracks. Unlike New Jersey, which offered Amazon about $7 billion to bring HQ2 there, we’re not looking to add residents, we’re just trying to keep residents from leaving in the coming years. 

Our exceedingly high cost of living and lack of quality jobs won’t permit a future of business as usual, and a vaccine won’t resolve our ongoing problems. In January, 2020, Aloha United Way (my employer) revealed that we had almost 200,000 Asset Limited, Income Constrained, Employed (ALICE) families in Hawai`i, a number also identified in AUW’s 2018 data. That was local reality pre-COVID-19. So let’s procure an East/West medical partnership, international space exploration facility, military adjunct, cybersecurity hub, science/technology expansion, ecotourism, media production facility, and/or alternate energy facilities? Or should we just wait?

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